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My Thoughts – Part 2


Yes I sat around and came up with 18 more….

- Stop living your life seeking the approval of others. If you need the accolades of others to validate your life and/or accomplishments then you will lead a very lonely and unfulfilled existence. Do what you want because you enjoy it. Do you and stop wasting time worrying about what others think about you.

- The grass is not always greener on the other side: Everyone wants what they don’t have, but most don’t understand that what they have usually will suffice.

- Hesitation usually means no.

- Stop succumbing to the negativity of others. Misery loves company but that company doesn’t have to be you. Let that person loathe on their own.

- Do what you say: Your word is all you really have. There is nothing worse than when someone tells you they will do something and you know they will never come through. Constant disappointment is tiring and people lose faith in you.

- One shouldn’t ask for assistance with certain things until they have tried to help themselves first. Don’t ask others to do for you what you can do yourself. Crying helpless sometimes falls on deaf ears.

- Don’t live beyond your means. If you can’t afford the deductible to repair a dent on your luxury vehicle, then you obviously don’t need it. You should have bought a lesser vehicle and kept some disposable income. Buy what you can afford.

- Splurging is ok. You work hard so spend your money on what you want; however, don’t go around buying bags, shoes, and whatnot and not have anything in your name. Save some of that money as a down payment for something substantial, like a house.

- Priorities: If it’s a struggle to figure out if you will be paying your rent/mortgage bill or buying a frivolous item then you need to reevaluate yours.

- Pride: Stop letting your pride get in the way of what you need to do. If you are unemployed, take what you can. If you have to flip burgers for a living until you get something better then do so. Some money coming in is better than nothing.

- Fat free doesn’t give you the green light to gorge yourself on that particular food.

- Don’t take things personally. Sometimes people have other things going on in their life that trumps anything you are trying to talk about.

- Secrets usually don’t stay that way for long…. Everything comes to light eventually so stay on the up and up.

- Envy: If you feel the need to compete with someone ask yourself why. Someone will always have something better than you. Strive to be the best as a personal goal, not to make yourself feel superior over someone.

- Stop feeling sorry for yourself when things aren’t perfect. If you don’t like your current situation, do something about it! Don’t wait around for a handout or for someone to give you a way out. Make it happen.

- Life is full of struggle and hardship but you must stay strong and weather the storm. Don’t give up because you are never dealt anything that you can’t handle.

- Why would you purchase a vehicle you know you can’t drive? I have a rule: If you can’t back into a spot or make a right turn with your vehicle without some part of your tire meeting the curb, then you probably don’t need to be driving it. Buy what you are comfortable driving, not what you think others believe you should be seen in.

- Be patient and respectful to our elderly: Aging is inevitable and you will soon be in their shoes and will want someone to extend the same courtesies to you.

My Thoughts – Part 1


Before I turned 30 I just sat around and reflected on some things. Below are 18 items that I thought about:

- Everything you do, good and bad, comes back to you. For those that have wronged you remember: Every dog has its day. Just sit back and wait….

- Always be kind and courteous to others. As the Bible states, you never know when you are entertaining angels.

- Change can happen at ANY time, regardless of the plans you may have made.

- There’s a fine line between saving money and being a cheap a**. Nobody likes a miser.

- No matter how nice and sweet of a person you are, someone, somewhere, still hates your a** for no reason. (I know this from personal experience).

- Those who feel the need to gossip have weak character. Weed those people out of your life. Know that when you talk about others it eventually gets back to them. Also know that more than likely, people are talking about you as well.

- Snakes in the grass will come into your life. Acknowledge what they are early on so when they betray you there is no astonishment or disdain. You knew what you were dealing with from the start….

- People love to see you fall. Those that revel in your failure are not worthy of your time. Pick yourself up and keep it moving. Your haters will encounter life’s failures in due time.

- You have officially reached a new status when you have “Me too’s”. This is someone who does the same things you do just because. Imitation is flattery to a certain point; after that it just becomes creepy because you’re a mindless follower.

- Just because it’s this season’s new trend doesn’t mean you should try it. Know your body type and what looks good on you. Some things are not a good look…. Also, dress age appropriate.

- If you’re over 40 and still regularly hitting the clubs, you just might be that pathetic “old head” that you always bashed and avoided. How the tables have turned….

- If my confidence makes you feel insecure then that’s a personal problem. You need to work on your self esteem.

- At some point in life, one needs to move out of their parent’s house and be independent. 40 and chillin’ at home is not cute…. Stop being afraid of the unknown.

- Stop making excuses for why you’re not doing something. Shoulda, coulda, woulda gets you nowhere.

- When things go wrong, think about what you could have done better. Stop blaming others for your mistakes that could have been prevented.

- Choose your company wisely; just because you have many friends/associates doesn’t mean everyone has your best interest in mind. Everyone has their own agenda as to why they deal with you. Take the time to figure out why.

- Remain humble. What’s here today may be gone tomorrow.

- Don’t always look down on those who are insolvent; they may be rich in spirit



I’m just taking a moment to reflect on my life thus far. I know I will be 30 soon and I realize that a lot of the goals I wanted for myself are further from my reach than I would like.  My degree keeps pushing itself back due to money constraints and dealing with family/life issues. Not to mention laziness. Financially I wish I were better off and I wish I had made better decisions with my life when it came to friends and other issues. But that is the past and one cannot constantly dwell on that. I will be making some substantial changes very soon. I am leaving my 20′s and with that, some of my young ignorance. I know I have a purpose to help people but I just need to get on the ball and get things rolling.

Also, I will be transforming my outer appearance a little as well. Nothing like a makeover to make you feel better.  :)