People Drawn to a Certain Undesirable “Type”
“When people keep being attracted to ultimately the same “type” (alcoholic, married, player, emotionally unavailable, etc.) the universe is trying to send them a message. What is drawing them to this person? Do they enjoy being a victim? Are they attracted to certain personalities (or appearances brought on by their own agenda – to save them, to prove their theories that all men/women are generally untrustworthy or whatever?
I think these people are very good judges of character. They are making psychological beelines for just the type of people they claim they don’t want. After all, if they got involved with honest and upfront people, they would then have to admit they are the ones with the problem.”
I have friends like this – one “friend” in particular (I will refer to her as ‘Me Too’). I call her Me Too because everything that I do, she has to do. She is the ultimate toxic friend. She has betrayed me, lied to my face, gossiped, stolen, etc. yet I still keep her around. Now I no longer entertain her calls because I’m just tired. This female seems to enjoy being dogged out by males. She keeps being approached by guys in law enforcement or government. All of them use her and she can’t figure out why. Everyone tries to tell her what’s going on but she doesn’t understand. She is purposely going for these men. She’s quick to point out their flaws when she is truly the one with issues. She is literally crazy. Her moods change at the drop of a hat and she’s controlling. Every guy she’s with bolts because they can’t put up with her but she wants to blame the relationship issues on the man because nothing is wrong with her. Denial can ruin you if you’re not careful.
I have known many females who always go for the “bad boy”and are always upset and wondering why they can’t find a good man. Uh, hello! Stop dating the same type of man! They know the person isn’t good for them but that’s what they like. I have learned to stop giving advice because it usually falls on deaf ears. Sometimes one must get burned by the flame before they learn something is hot. Some people have to get a few scars from different fires before they get the point, but I believe in time, everyone will find what is good for them or not.
